If you’ve been trying to figure out how to stop second-guessing yourself, here are five effective ways you can deal with this.
There are some doubts that race through our minds every time we’re thinking of making a decision.
- “What if it doesn’t work out?”
- “Do I even know what I’m doing?”
- “Who am I to even think this idea will fly?”
As humans, second-guessing ourselves is like a habit of nature. Maybe it’s some twisted form of self-sabotage or just a bad habit we picked up from that childhood friend who can’t ever decide what to do.
Either way, it’s time to stop doubting yourself and start making decisions confidently. In this guide, you’re going to learn how to stop second-guessing everything in five steps. Let’s go!
1. Ask yourself reflective questions
When you know the root of a problem, you’ll be able to solve it. If you want to stop second-guessing everything you do, the first thing you need is to identify the root cause of your self-doubt.
You’re going to ask yourself some deep questions and, of course, provide raw, unfiltered answers. Why don’t I trust myself? Is it fear of failure, lack of confidence, negative beliefs, decision paralysis, or something else?
Knowing where your self-doubt stems from will help you develop effective measures to overcome it. I created this FREE self-confidence workbook to help you reflect and build up your self-esteem.
2. Trust your guts & own your choices
Anytime you want to overthink or question your decisions, don’t. Instead, trust your instincts. Your guts, intuition, whatever you want to call it… These feelings are usually right.
You might want to teeter on the edge of doubt during your decision-making process. But, don’t. When you make a choice, own it like you’re walking the runway at Paris Fashion Week. Whether it’s choosing a latte over a cappuccino or deciding to quit your soul-sucking job, stand tall and believe that you made the right choice.
3. Know that you aren’t psychic
Newsflash: You’re not a psychic. If you were, you’d be sipping cosmos on a beach somewhere while your psychic hotline rakes in the big bucks.
Part of what makes you human is the uncertainty that life brings. Make decisions based on your gut feelings or the information you have at hand, and move on.
Life’s a rollercoaster, so stop trying to predict the future and focus on the present moment. This will help you stay grounded so you can make decisions with more clarity.
4. Embrace your flaws
You’re a work in progress—and it isn’t just you. No one has it all figured out, no matter what they say.
Stop looking back at the decisions you’ve made with judgmental eyes. You made the best choice you could. Embrace your imperfections—because, let’s face it, perfection is overrated.
Flaunt your quirks, embrace your flaws, and find strength in your vulnerability. Be kind to yourself and acknowledge that mistakes are a part of life.
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5. Surround yourself with cheerleaders
Your inner circle should be filled with people who motivate the heck out of you. If it’s not, then it’s time for a makeover.
Surround yourself with friends, colleagues, and family members who lift you up. They’re the kind of people who will believe in you, even when you’re questioning yourself.
You’ll eventually stop second-guessing everything you do when you have positive people who can help you find clarity in your thought process so you can make better decisions.
Final thoughts: How to overcome second-guessing yourself
It’s time to own your life and make decisions confidently without doubting yourself.
Fair warning: This isn’t a one-day transformation. But with time and intentional practice, you’ll be able to overcome self-doubt with these five tips. You’ll learn to trust yourself and become confident in your abilities and choices.